Posts Tagged ‘Sexual communication’


If multiple orgasms were strictly for pleasure, then every woman would have multiple orgasms. It has been greatly speculated that the female multiple orgasm phenomena have no basis in evolution by natural selection. It is claimed to bequeath no advantage to survival. Another problem is the lack of orgasms at all with many women. Neither of these are a serious problem for natural selection.

The easy problem first. If a woman does not have an orgasm, there is still a good chance that she will conceive. As long as the male has an orgasm and ejaculates into her. This should be a no brainer. It leaves a critical question though. Why would any woman ever need to have an orgasm, except for pleasure? So was sex selected for pleasure? I expect that answer to be partially yes, but not completely so. Depending on who you read, female Bonobo’s—smaller chimpanzees—have orgasms too. As an appeasement, often, two female Bonobo’s will stimulate each other into orgasm as a way to make peace. Depending on who you read, human females are the only species who actually have orgasms. I will not contend with why women have them, but it is a good thing!

The harder problem seems to be the question of why multiple orgasms arose in the first place. This has a clear and distinct answer. Males, as it is well known, are forced to stop copulation after having an orgasm, or ejaculating as it is called. Interestingly, I have read an article that implies that some men can also have multiple orgasms. As well, male orgasm and ejaculation, are supposedly, two different things. At any rate, these are rare! The vast majority of men must stop copulating and loose their erections.

What if a woman, after reaching orgasm, had to stop copulating as well? If the male did not ejaculate, then the chances of impregnating her would become very low, but not zero. Some sperm could still leak out. As with everything else in evolution? “May the odds be ever in your favor.” (The Hunger Games) Only men who could ejaculate would produce offspring. Only women who could continue until the male ejaculated would produce offspring. This would mean that selection for stamina in females would become much needed. What better way to produce stamina than to promote the ability to have multiple orgasms?

To balance this, any woman who reached an orgasm too soon and had to stop copulating would leave no descendants and not pass on her traits. She would be what is known as an evolutionary dead end. There might be some women alive today that do have to stop after they reach orgasm, but it is rarely reported in any articles. One thing is for certain, multiple orgasms are selectable for and do convey an advantage. The advantages are more than reproduction, they also include the release of hormones which aid in pair bonding and feeling good. Why would one not select for pleasure if at all possible?

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Last time I quickly reviewed a simple dream. This post I will review one simple sexual dream and one a little more complex. This will make the post longer than I normally make them. Sorry!

The first dream:

I was at work and I needed to go to the washroom. Similar to my last dream. Not similar, I was in a position to actually pee. I was in fact, standing at the urinal ready to go. Suddenly, out of nowhere, a woman appeared. She was very attractive and offered to have sexual relations with me. She was not shy either and her words gave me an instant erection. Ever try peeing with an erection. Not impossible, but difficult. I still needed to pee really bad and was asking her to wait until I was done, without much success. Again, suddenly, some of my coworkers came into the washroom and it angered me. I was upset that no one would leave me alone to pee in private, or at all for that matter. Then I awoke from my dream and rushed to the real washroom.

Like the dream in my prior post on dreams, your brain knows what is going on in your body. Needing to pee, bad, and actually peeing in the dream might lead to an accident in real life. I might have still woken, but I would have had to changed my bedding. An erection is not uncommon with all ages of men to ward off wetting the bed. It has been postulated that this is why most men awaken with an erection. Thus, my sexual encounter. This was not stopping me from going and it might have angered my complex brain enough to induce anger as an awakening agent. So it did the best thing it could: interrupted my peeing/sex by lack of privacy to do either. This dream and the last posted dream are similar in mechanics. They deal with what the brain knows about the brain and body. Before going to bed now, I tell myself, that if I need to pee while dreaming, wake up.

The second dream:

Remembering that this is a “family friendly” blog, I will not use the proper graphics. Many moons ago, I was dreaming that I was out for a night and that a beautiful woman was watching me. I walked over to her and she was quite aggressive in the sexual department. I took her home and to do the proverbial act, in which she told me to do whatever I wanted, so I did. I did not ejaculate in the dream (or real life) and woke before going too far. Not to graphic?

In real life, I was going through some hard times: working too much, marriage stress, home renovations, teenage children, and I was missing some form of intimacy. Too much work and not enough play. I have never been unfaithful! Why a strange woman? Possibly because there was no current way of connecting with, my then, wife. A stranger in another place in spacetime might have been needed to fulfil the necessities. Maybe, it was my unconscious brain telling my dreaming brain what I need to release my tensions. Not necessarily a different woman, but maybe, uncontrolled, lustful sex. The point is that these dreams don’t need to be explained as sexual fantasies, or wet dreams, although that is another possible answer. Your brain might be trying to tell you something important about your sexual needs, or intimacy needs as sex is often a substitute or indicator of your intimate needs. Sex releases tension, lowers depression, puts you in a good mood, keeps your heart healthy as well as your mind. What’s not to dream about?

Sexual dreams or wet dreams as adolescents might just be the brain learning to become sexual. A way of rehearsing sexual functions while the brain develops its sexually.

Even a simple dream of being in public completely naked could have some explanation about your waking brain state. It could be from trying to deal with guilt. Your brain, consciously or sub-consciously, could be revealing this to your dreaming brain. Being naked in public does not have to be sexual in nature. It presupposes that you are bare for every one to see—your sin is in the domain of the public and you cannot even hide it. The dream might not explain what the guilt is from or even give any clues.

I strongly suspect that most dreams are influenced by our current bodily condition, sub-conscious condition or even our conscious conditions. I wrote this post to give my wonderful readers some insight into normal dreaming mechanics. True, there are weird dreams that don’t fall into the realms of these, or any explanations. Most dreams I think, are telling you something hidden about your life. Reflect on them and pay attention!

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It has been studied and well understood that among primates different sexual calls or cries of passion are used.

Stuart Semple analyzed copulation calls from seven different female baboons. Apparently, these copulation calls are very complex vocalizations. These mating calls contain information about the status of the male she is copulating with.  The acoustic sounds are more complex when copulating with higher ranking males. Supposedly to let lower ranking males know to stay away until the higher ranking male is gone. The sound produced is longer with the high ranking males.

The sound complexity also changes when she is closer to ovulation. Yet these calls are distinct to sexual reproduction and both the males and females know this little fact. The human female has a higher pitched voice when she is closer to ovulation. The human female does not have a call for copulation—that we men know of anyway.

If lengthening or shortening pitch or duration can change a copulation call in baboons, then why can’t the same apply to human speech? Not only can pitch change, but duration as well. If other primates can alter calls to indicate different copulation situations, then why can’t humans alter every call to communicate different situations?

We can! It’s called articulated speech.

So while we listen to the erotic calls of the wild we should be mindful not to get caught with our pants down.

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